Are you being emotionally abused by a partner? Check out the causes,signs,effects and solution
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Let me share a secret here, that have worked for most Marriages, relationships and even personal life. Please don’t criticize if it doesn’t work for you, just read and pass. I am using relationship, Marriage and the ladies as an example but it applies to all sex (male and female) and anyone or Organizations in life.
We have a lot of recorded divorce everyday most especially from young couples. Let me share some reasons!!!
You want a man who will succeed, now as a woman do you really have or can you really sacrifice for what it takes a man to succeed?
If Yes what about this your present relationship? Have you been able to?
You want a man who will have or create best time for you… Now can you also create or have that best time for the man?
If Yes what about this your present relationship? Have done that?
You want a to marry from a family that will love you… Or your family wants you to marry from the family that will love you. Can they really pay such sacrifice or can you pay that sacrifice?
If Yes what about this your present relationship?
You want a man that can sacrifice his life for you .. can you sacrifice your life for a man?
You want a man that will not cheat on you or have a bestie/female friends maybe because you are the jealous type, now Can you do the same for man? If Yes what about this your present relationship?
You want a man that will introduce you to his friends, can you also introduce him to his friends? If Yes what about this your present relationship?
You want a faithful man, can you be a faithful woman? If Yes what about this your present relationship?
You want who will truly love and cherish you, can you truly love and cherish a man? If Yes what about this your present relationship?
You want man that will prove to his family that he truly loves you, can you really prove to your family you truly love a man? If Yes what about this your present relationship?
You want a man that will spend all his savings for you, just for you to believe that he loves you, can you really spend all you have on a man to make him happy? If Yes what about this your present relationship?
You want someone who can trust you, are you really working for someone to trust you?.
Now after reading all these Questions if your answer is ‘Yes’ now tell me why is it difficult for you to prove all that now in this your present relationship?
Why is difficult for you?
I have discovered that most times in life, we got the results of what we ask for with our actions and later regret accuse or ask God if He truly answers prayers. What actually happens is that after asking or praying to God, God release what you pray for but Satan divert you by poisoning your mind and diverting you to different or wrong directions and you end up losing.
Most of the things you pray for don’t show up because your actions tells a different results.
You want people to be good, be a good person to someone. You need a good servant, are you a good boss? You want a good Government, are you a good contizen? You want good friends, are you a good friend to someone? You want givers around you, are you a giver? You want those under you to respect you, are you respecting those that are above you?
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Human being are the main focus in every sexually bargained relationship, their believes, experiences and interest for the relationship and the person they are dating are determinant factors, whether the relationship will flourish or not.
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1. Humility: This Is considered one of the most important factor when choosing a spouse. Humility is the state of not being proud, egoless, etc. Your to-be spouse should be able to render himself/herself low as a sign of respect. Irrespective of the status, rich or poor, wealthy or hustling, humility should come first in all. This will show a good sign of respect present in your spouse before walking down the Aisle with him or her.
2. Love: There must be a reciprocal love between you and your spouse. The love must be unconditional and shouldn’t be one sided. Though there are spouses who tend to deceive their partners even till marriage, a partner who loves you unconditionally wouldn’t do that.
3. Sacrifices: Love comes with great sacrifices. Sacrifices shows how deep the love your spouse has for you. Sometimes, you may have to test him/her to check. It’s not always the best but it’s needed. Watch out for the sacrifices he/she makes for you whether rich, wealthy or poor.
4. Tolerance: This is by far one of the most important things you watch out for before marriage. What can your spouse tolerate, how much can he/she tolerate problems, challenges, ugly situations, hard times. Marriage won’t always be sweet as it’s not a bed of roses, so, you should watch out for your spouse tolerance range among other things.
5. Trust: This is defined as having confidence or reliance in your spouse. When you are far apart and your spouse tells you he/she is in a party or get together, do you trust him/her enough not to engage in ugly scenes. Your spouse should be someone who trusts you wholeheartedly, have confidence in your and your ability, then reliance on your person. So, watch out for this
6. Jealousy: Jealousy is normal in relationship but should be kept at the optimal level/minimal level. If your spouse is the very jealous type, try talking it out with him/her. If after discussing and it does still persist, do well to end the relationship/courtship.
7. Godly Behavior: What is his/her attitude? Are you able to cope with him/her? Is it the behavior you will want to move with forever?. Good and godly behavior should be watched out for in your spouse before during courtship.
8. Godly,not religious: Is he/she of the same or different religion with you?. A good spouse will always keep to his/her faith and respect authorities. He/she should not take religion like a tug of war but rather be sensible enough to determine what to do in situations.
9. Good source of income: There must be a source of income for your spouse before marriage. Don’t get into marriage with the hope of things becoming better. While it may work for some people, it doesn’t work for all. So, your spouse must have a source of income and a place to stay before marriage.
A broken courtship is better than a broken marriage. Marriage is to be enjoyed and not endured. A good marriage begins from a strong courtship. Therefore, watch out for these steps before you walk down the aisle with your spouse.
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