What is the No.#1 cause of breakup and divorce in relationship by Ayanfemi
Relationship should be sacred and devoid of infidelity and unfaithfulness,I’ve gave the 7 warning signs your partner cheating in one of my previous post and tips to healthy relationship in another.

  However today we will be talking about major causes of breakup and divorce in relationship ,I approached Ayanfemi who is a relationship consultant to share me some of the causes of breakups and below is what he shared with me


Let me share a secret here, that have worked for most Marriages, relationships and even personal life. Please don’t criticize if it doesn’t work for you, just read and pass. I am using relationship, Marriage and the ladies as an example but it applies to all sex (male and female) and anyone or Organizations in life.


We have a lot of recorded divorce everyday most especially from young couples. Let me share some reasons!!!

You want a man who will succeed, now as a woman do you really have or can you really sacrifice for what it takes a man to succeed?

If Yes what about this your present relationship? Have you been able to?
You want a man who will have or create best time for you… Now can you also create or have that best time for the man?

If Yes what about this your present relationship? Have done that?
You want a to marry from a family that will love you… Or your family wants you to marry from the family that will love you. Can they really pay such sacrifice or can you pay that sacrifice?
If Yes what about this your present relationship?

You want a man that can sacrifice his life for you .. can you sacrifice your life for a man?
You want a man that will not cheat on you or have a bestie/female friends maybe because you are the jealous type, now Can you do the same for man? If Yes what about this your present relationship?

You want a man that will introduce you to his friends, can you also introduce him to his friends? If Yes what about this your present relationship?

You want a faithful man, can you be a faithful woman? If Yes what about this your present relationship?


You want who will truly love and cherish you, can you truly love and cherish a man? If Yes what about this your present relationship?

You want man that will prove to his family that he truly loves you, can you really prove to your family you truly love a man? If Yes what about this your present relationship?

You want a man that will spend all his savings for you, just for you to believe that he loves you, can you really spend all you have on a man to make him happy? If Yes what about this your present relationship?

You want someone who can trust you, are you really working for someone to trust you?.


Now after reading all these Questions if your answer is ‘Yes’ now tell me why is it difficult for you to prove all that now in this your present relationship?
Why is difficult for you?

I have discovered that most times in life, we got the results of what we ask for with our actions and later regret accuse or ask God if He truly answers prayers. What actually happens is that after asking or praying to God, God release what you pray for but Satan divert you by poisoning your mind and diverting you to different or wrong directions and you end up losing.

Most of the things you pray for don’t show up because your actions tells a different results.

 You want people to be good, be a good person to someone. You need a good servant, are you a good boss? You want a good Government, are you a good contizen? You want good friends, are you a good friend to someone? You want givers around you, are you a giver? You want those under you to respect you, are you respecting those that are above you?

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You will NEVER have certain most important things in life you pray for until you work or sacrifice for it.
 Let your actions speak whatever you are seeking for. Or more than what you are seeking for.

Marriage is a journey of hard work of sacrifices alone that begins from relationship. A journey of two persons to accomplish life purpose. With paying the sacrifice there is no success.

 You harvest what you plant. Let your character prove your prayers to God. Not your words 

That’s what  I learnt from him,However if your partner is cheating and you planning to divorce with him/her,There are better options to that especially if you have kids already,Read my post on ways to get your husband from the other woman and it will be solved

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